Breaking Through Your Inner Glass Ceiling: Unlocking Your Full Potential

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Breaking Through Your Inner Glass Ceiling: Unlocking Your Full Potential

Have you ever felt like you’re just inches away from your goals, yet something invisible seems to hold you back?

Imagine hitting an invisible barrier every time you try to reach new heights in your career or personal growth. It’s frustrating, isn’t it?

Your intelligent, gifted, and talented, with qualities, traits, and accomplishments to be proud of. At the same time, you may be feeling pain, frustration and perhaps even a confusing gap between the greater potential you sense for your life and your ability to realise it. You are not alone.

There is this barrier that can hold us back from the life our heart desires for us. This barrier, often self-imposed, is what many of us recognise as the “inner glass ceiling”. It’s not just a barrier to our professional advancement; it’s a limit we unconsciously set on our potential.

The truth is, these ceilings are built from elements made of past failures, fears, societal and cultural expectations, the narratives from our upbringing, and sometimes, the voices of people who told us we couldn’t make it. Over time, and through the stories we tell ourselves that reinforces everything we’ve been told, these conditioning solidifies, forming a barrier that feels almost  impenetrable. This barrier is the unconscious patterns
we subscribe to. The habitual thoughts, behaviours, and reactions we’re barely aware of, yet profoundly shape our reality.

Here are 3 examples of the unconscious patterns and their impact on us:
1. Feeling like an imposter: where you constantly doubt your capability, accomplishments and fearing being exposed as a ‘fraud’. This pattern can paralyse personal and professional growth by preventing you from applying for promotions, speaking up in meetings, or taking risks to advance your career. It breeds anxiety and stifles your true potential.
2. The perfectionist trap: believing that perfect is the only acceptable outcome, leading to procrastination and a failure to start or complete tasks. This pattern can lead to significant stress, burnout, and a chronic sense of failure, as the pursuit of perfection is ultimately an unattainable goal. It often results in missed opportunities and stunted professional growth.
3. The victim mentality: habitually perceiving oneself as the passive recipient of negative circumstances without recognising one’s own power to change the situation. This mindset can lead to a life filled with complaints, comparing, negative self-talk and excuses rather than actions. It hinders personal growth and fosters a life of stagnation and dissatisfaction. Individuals with a victim mentality often feel powerless and blame external factors for their unhappiness and failures, which prevents them from taking accountability and pursuing change.

As these patterns are laid bare, let me ask, do you want to continue allowing these barriers to obstruct your fullest potential and the life you deserve?

What if I told you that you hold the power to shatter this ceiling?

Yes, the tool to break through is within your reach. It starts with a shift in perspective – a shift from doubt to belief, from fear to courage, from I can’t, to I can. It’s within this shift from unconscious patterns to conscious intentions lies your full potential.

Your mindset is a collection of your thought patterns, beliefs, habitual reactions, and behaviours. Your mindset authors your life story. It’s now time to rewrite the story.

Breaking through limiting patterns that no longer serve you, begins with self-awareness, to become the observer of the beliefs and patterns that’s been programmed into your subconscious mind. The best way to elevate your self-awareness is journaling. It’s a powerful tool for self-reflection, and self-discovery.

Journaling encourages you to slow down and reflect on your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. This practice allows you to step back and observe your daily experiences and the emotions they evoke. Over time, journal entries can help you identify recurring patterns in your thoughts and behaviours – such as automatic negative thoughts or self-sabotaging actions—that may be holding you back from reaching your full potential.

Here are steps you can take through your journaling to shift those unconscious patterns.

Step 1 – Acknowledge Your Glass Ceiling
First, let’s admit it’s there. For many, this inner limitation manifests as self-doubt, procrastination, or a pervasive feeling of being undeserving. Recognise these feelings and beliefs for what they are. Confront them by writing them down in your journal. Don’t avoid nor should you deny this discovery, instead acknowledge without judgment or criticism.

Step 2 – Challenge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs
Ask yourself, are these beliefs truly yours, or were they imposed on you by others? Have you been living according to what others expect of you? Challenge these beliefs, dismantle them by setting small, achievable goals that act as cracks in this glass ceiling. Each achievement is a crack, each success a shattering blow.

Step 3 – Cultivate Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself. The journey toward breaking your inner glass ceiling is not about reaching perfection; it’s about progressing despite imperfections. Embrace your missteps as they are valuable lessons, not setbacks. Focus on your strength, qualities, and traits that you are proud of. Practice gratitude and use affirmation to reinforce your power, everything amazing about you and what you have achieved.

Step 4 – Surround Yourself with Sky-Openers
Who are the people who lift you up? Surround yourself with mentors, peers, and friends who see the limitless sky above you rather than the ceiling you’re trying to break. Their perspective can lend you strength and a new viewpoint when your own vision gets cloudy.

Step 5 – Act Despite Fear
The final and most crucial step is to act. Action is the most potent weapon against any form of fear or doubt. Each step forward, no matter how small, is a step out from under the shadow of your old limits.

Breaking through your inner glass ceiling is not a one-time event; it’s a continuous journey of self-discovery and liberation. As you ascend, remember that the shards of glass were once part of a barrier that seemed unbreakable. Each shard represents a limitation you’ve overcome, a challenge you’ve mastered. And when you finally emerge through, you’ll find that the vast, infinite sky – a realm of possibilities has been waiting for you all along.

NB: The ‘Create Your Reality’ Journal is a guided journal that’ll help and support you through the process of confronting and dismantling your inner glass ceiling. It also offers 7 life changing habits for cultivating a growth mindset, gratitude practices and daily affirmations. For a deeper understanding and learning the practices to shift from unconscious patterns to conscious intentions please reach out to me for guidance and mentorship.


Preetie Boler, a transformational leader and former lawyer with over 30 years of combined legal and commercial experience in various corporate environments.
Her vast experience in this space provides her with comprehensive knowledge on effective leadership and positive workplace behaviours – behaviours that drive, high performance, positive culture, growth, resilience and success. In her corporate role with a national facilities management company, Preetie leads and mentors her team to excel in their respective responsibilities involving managing vendor compliance, contract development and dispute resolution.
Preetie is also a Certified Emotional Intelligence Facilitator and Mindfulness Practitioner. She established her business, Empowered by Design, to focus on merging her expertise in both these areas to develop, and deliver women empowerment programmes and keynotes with emphasis on mindset shift, emotional resilience and becoming a positive influence. Preetie facilitates impactful and transformative workshops and masterclasses.


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